Chapter III Verse XV - The Golden Rule 2.0

My apologies to my readers for the late blogs. I will do my best to catch up by next week. Now, onto the babbling. . .

I would like to talk this week about a technique I learned to get more of the things I want.
Most of us have heard the saying, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". I prefer the concept of karma, which I will define as "The effect of your actions on your life".

One of the things that I like about these theories is that they align with the scientific concept in Sir Isaac Newton's laws of motion that "For every action there is an equal but opposite reaction". I like this because when something is true it has a habit of appearing in several forms.

I wondered if this large theory of action coming back to us could be visible in a more practical time frame. I was thinking this because generally it's not a very fun theory. That's because we tend to think that even if we do get good things back we have to wait so long that we can't tell what caused them anyway. For a reward system to alter our behavior it's important to make a connection between behavior and reward. So I wanted to find a way to close the gap between my actions and the effects they might have.
As I was thinking all that I checked my inbox for an email that I really wanted to get. I did not get that email. At the same time I read an email from someone that I knew was waiting on me to respond, probably urgently. As I testily ignored this email it occurred to me that the situation was an opportunity to try something that I could watch for a direct effect.

What if I emailed this person waiting for me and watched to see if it had an effect on the email I wanted to receive? So I did. That is not to say that my sole purpose in writing to the person waiting on me was to get the result. Rather, I made the exercise a priority, wrote the email honestly and with love. Since I was in the same position as they were, it was easier to understand the importance of writing it.
So I wrote it and sent it and forgot about the whole thing. Until I got the email I was waiting on. I don't remember if it was in an hour or the next day but it was fast. Not to mention that this was an email I was not sure I was going to get at all (girls . . . . what can I say?). Now, maybe this was convenient timing and maybe I'm seeing what I want to see. But I think it's worth consideration.

I have tried this trick many times and have always been rewarded. Not always in the manner I would like but enough so that I never regret the effort. If I want someone to listen, I listen. Especially someone I find hard to listen to but wants to talk to me. Again, the point is to put ourselves in the other person's shoes, to understand their perspective. Often that is enough to make us reevaluate what we want.

So if you want something in life, give it away.
Want people to be nicer. . . hold the door open more.
Want people to say good morning more. . . say good morning to more strangers.
Here's the really hard one:
Want some more money. . . give some away.


- Dsus Pays